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What is your stance on relationships?
Topic Started: Mar 8 2017, 02:26 PM (854 Views)
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Here in the UK, if you're dating somebody, it's fairly normal to expect them to be only dating you during this time.

From what TV/Movies had led me to believe, in the USA, there is this "exclusive" thing, where you either date as many people as you like, or see one person exclusively.

What is your personal stance? A one person man/women? Or date whoever the hell you like?
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"I am the bone of my sword."

I mean most people in the USA aren't going to date several people at the same time but they'll go from dates to dates. You'll have one date, break up, go to another date, break up, etc. Until you apparently find the right person and hook up permanently with them.





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I don't have any qualms with other people dating multiple parties, or open relationships etc, but I couldn't do it myself, nor could I be with somebody who was doing it.

In terms of the early stages e.g. you've only been on a few (1-3) dates, I'd say it's fine to date other people (obviously unless you've explicitly stated you won't). The relationship doesn't really begin on the first date, it begins when you both decide it begins. Sometimes that goes unsaid, sometimes it needs to be said. However, I think once you start hitting 4-5 dates and up, there can probably be some expectations of monogamy.
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I have no problems with people who want to purely have a sex life with different people but I feel like if you're making the effort to commit to someone in an emotional sense you should be with the one person.

Dating multiple people sounds pointless to me, either you like them or you don't, it shouldn't take tons of dates unless you're both faking how you are.
Going out with one because they have the same taste in music and another because they have the same taste in literature seems silly, I doubt anyone can really feel for multiple people on an equal level and trying to decide between multiple options is just going to lead to problems.
Especially when the people you ditch get pissed off because they thought you had something together.


Never really been a fan of how people date continually until someone ticks enough boxes for them to decide they're good enough, just seems kind of mean. You can't just find someone who's a perfect match you build a relationship together through time and effort. Some people just fit but expecting that is lazy.

There must be a sensational amount of wasted relationships out of there that were abandoned over superficial nonsense. Like a 6 thinking a 7 isn't good enough for them.
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I have no problem with open relationships if that's what both parties want, but I don't think it's that prominent in America. We're still a Christian nation, you know.

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You can't just find someone who's a perfect match you build a relationship together through time and effort. Some people just fit but expecting that is lazy.

Not expecting that seems more lazy to me. If the person you're dating isn't a perfect match for you and you stay with them anyway in the hopes that things get better, that's just settling.
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Mar 13 2017, 01:30 PM
I have no problem with open relationships if that's what both parties want, but I don't think it's that prominent in America. We're still a Christian nation, you know.

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You can't just find someone who's a perfect match you build a relationship together through time and effort. Some people just fit but expecting that is lazy.

Not expecting that seems more lazy to me. If the person you're dating isn't a perfect match for you and you stay with them anyway in the hopes that things get better, that's just settling.
Well i say that depends on if you're willing to change for said person.
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Unfortunately, that isn't how a successful adult relationship works. Never go into any type of relationship expecting the other person to change. Not only is that an immature way of looking at relationships, but it can be extremely toxic.
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What do you mean by settling anyway?
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I think dating until you find the right one is a very normal thing to do in most western civilization countries. That way you get to have sex (hopefully) up until you find the right one, so it's a win win.
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Mar 13 2017, 02:14 PM
What do you mean by settling anyway?
Settling means meeting someone that isn't right for you, whether it be them giving off red flags or being incompatible in some other way, and staying with them in the hopes that things get better when you should be out looking for better.
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Yeah, you can't expect anybody to change their ways for you, nor can somebody expect the same from you. Sure, people can be willing to change (and almost certainly will over time), but if the person isn't who you want them to be at the beginning of the relationship, then why even enter into one in the first place?

And by 'settling' I assume OFG meant settling for somebody that you sort of like because they present themselves, rather than holding out for somebody that is a much better match for you. A lot of people tend to fall into that trap because they're afraid to be alone and it often means the relationship is doomed from the start.
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I suppose that seems smart so long as you aren't too quickfooted about it.
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i cant get one girl to date me, let alone multiple
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Dating someone doesn't mean you're in a relationship with them, at least imo.

Eg date 5 different woman and then choose the one you're most attracted to and find most suitable to get into a relationship with, so it doesn't mean you're in a relationship with any of them.
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How do you define dating then?
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